of this type tend to be: quiet, reserved, and kind; deeply passionate,
sensitive, and easily hurt; loving and dedicated to those close to them;
creative, original and imaginative; curious and flexible in small matters;
nonconforming. The most important thing to INFPs is their is their deeply
held beliefs and living in harmony with their values . . .
natural tendency to identify with others, compounded with their self-sacrifical
dispositions, tends to leave them confused as who they really are. Their
quiet personalities further feed their feelings of depersonalization.
The INFP's quest for self-identify then seems even more alluring - but
increasingly impossible to attain.
. see the purpose of their lives as an inner journey, quest or personal
. . . guide their behavior by a strong inner sense of values, rather
than by conventional logic and reason
. . . the people they prize the most are those who take the time to
understand their values and the goals they are working toward
. . . have a rare capacity for deep caring and commitment--both to the
people and causes they idealize
. . . quietly push for what's important, and rarely give up
INTPs tend to have a sense of failed competence, INFPs struggle with
the issue of their own ethical perfection, e.g., perfo rmance of duty
for the greater cause. An INFP friend describes the inner conflict as
not good versus bad, but on a grand scale, Good vs. Evil. Luke Skywalker
in Star Wars depicts this conflict in his struggle between the two sides
of "The Force." Although the dark side must be reckoned with,
the INFP believes that good ultimately triumphs . . .
are highly intuitive about people. They rely heavily on their intuitions
to guide them, and use their discoveries to constantly search for value
in life. They are on a continuous mission to find the truth and meaning
underlying things. Every encounter and every piece of knowledge gained
gets sifted through the INFP's value system, and is evaluated to see
if it has any potential to help the INFP define or refine their own
path in life. The goal at the end of the path is always the same - the
INFP is driven to help people and make the world a better place . .
are flexible and laid-back, until one of their values is violated. In
the face of their value system being threatened, INFPs can become aggressive
defenders, fighting passionately for their cause. When an INFP has adopted
a project or job which they're interested in, it usually becomes a "cause"
for them. Although they are not detail-oriented individuals, they will
cover every possible detail with determination and vigor when working
for their "cause".
it comes to the mundane details of life maintenance, INFPs are typically
completely unaware of such things. They might go for long periods without
noticing a stain on the carpet, but carefully and meticulously brush
a speck of dust off of their project booklet . . .
are usually talented writers. They may be awkard and uncomfortable with
expressing themselves verbally, but have a wonderful ability to define
and express what they're feeling on paper. INFPs also appear frequently
in social service professions, such as counselling or teaching. They
are at their best in situations where they're working towards the public
good, and in which they don't need to use hard logic.
have the ability to see good in almost anyone or anything. Even for
the most unlovable the INFP is wont to have pity.
must have made the acquaintance of Satan and Shylock at about the same
time, for the two characters were long associated in my mind. I remember
that I was sorry for them. I felt vaguely that they could not be good
even if they wished to, because no one seemed willing to help them or
to give them a fair chance. Even now I cannot find it in my heart to
condemn them utterly. There are moments that I feel that the Shylocks,
the Judases, and even the Devil, are broken spokes in the great wheel
of good which shall in due time be made whole." (Helen Keller,
The Story of My Life)
have a need for perfection in connection with their personal values.
They become frustrated with those who dwell on trivialities.
need a purpose beyond the paycheck. They become burned out easily if
their job does not fit their value system; they may not feel good enough
about what they have achieved and, as a result, may undervalue themselves
and their contributions.
retirement, INFPs need to look back and feel that they have led a worthwhile
life that has made a difference.
INFP internally feels his or her life intensely. In the relationship
arena, this causes them to have a very deep capacity for love and caring
which is not frequently found with such intensity in the other types.
The INFP does not devote their intense feelings towards just anyone,
and are relatively reserved about expressing their inner-most feelings.
They reserve their deepest love and caring for a select few who are
closest to them. INFPs are generally laid-back, supportive and nurturing
in their close relationships. With Introverted Feeling dominating their
personality, they're very sensitive and in-tune with people's feelings,
and feel genuine concern and caring for others. Slow to trust others
and cautious in the beginning of a relationship, an INFP will be fiercely
loyal once they are committed. With their strong inner core of values,
they are intense individuals who value depth and authenticity in their
relationships, and hold those who understand and accept the INFP's perspectives
in especially high regard.
can lose themselves in a project and ignore the realities of life around
them when working on a cause they believe in. They are sensitive to
interpersonal tension and tend to avoid conflict whenever possible.
They have trouble letting go of things and often hold grudges. Because
they only see the good in the people they care about, they run the risk
of being disillusioned and easily disappointed.
look at humanity at both the individual (human-to-human) and societal
levels. One common discouragement for INFP's is that societal change
often seems impossible. When INFPs become discouraged, they may need
some time and space to rediscover their values and a sense of inner
peace. The conflict between their ideal world and "reality",
as they see it can cause depression or withdrawal from the world unless
they have people that support them in their projects.